At first, she found it dry. Soon and forever after, she would find it vast, dreadfully open, more sky than prairie, more prairie than mountain, more mountain than city. The whole would outstrip her ability to see, and she knew her days would end before she had seen one half of the continent and its rivers, its forests, its shores. Dry at first, then running, raining, flooding, wet. Then dry again…The Saint of Cabora had discovered America.
- Queen of America by Luis Alberto Urrea
I didn’t expect the car trip to the Medicine of the People’s Conference to affect me almost as much as the actual conference. From Napa down through central valley agriculture with its swathes of irrigated monoculture punctuated by dead, dry dirt (no living soil there) where water had been diverted away from agriculture due to water shortages and competing interests; into the Mohave desert with its barren stretches of sagebrush and tumbleweeds and endless sky and then into Arizona desert with its cactus and upthrust volcanic rock and myriad shades of subtle color and then up, up into the high desert mountains full of ponderosa pines and countless wildflowers. The whole of it gave me a deep, deep sense of homesickness and uprootedness and wonder at the sheer vastness of it all. I’m a homebody. Through and through. When I say homebody, I don’t mean just attached to being in my house. I mean being attached to the place around me: the plants and the animals and the seasonal shifts in weather. I like feeling ‘at home’. Familiar.
I remember feeling this way when Aaron and I moved from Arcata and the redwood forests down into Napa to be closer to family: lost. My extended family lives up in the Pacific Northwest. That’s where I was born and that’s where the majority of my camping and hiking and outdoor exploration occurred throughout my childhood. That is the landscape that sank deep into my blood and my psyche. That is what smelled like home, felt like home. When Aaron and I visited Arcata for the first time, I remember a sudden sense of being home. I remember telling him that it smelled like my grandmother’s house. And I knew this was where we should move to. This lush, green, moss-carpeted place with the smell of the ocean and spruce and redwood.
When we moved to Napa, I remember feeling lost. All those plants I knew, those smells, that coastal weather: gone. For Aaron, having been raised in Napa his whole life, it is here amongst the oaks and coyote bush and manzanita that he is home. For me it wasn’t immediate. It was (and is) a process of learning and exploring and laying down roots. Of daily intimate engagement with the land around me through walking, gardening, sitting and observing, harvesting. A process that has taken years and is far from complete. Often I would still think wistfully of the lush, green Pacific Northwest despite my growing love of this dry and then wet, brown and then green, hot and then cool, place of contrasts and of harvests and of spicy smells. Until this trip, I hadn’t realized just how much this place has become home. Just how deep my roots have grown.
I felt downright lost without my familiar plants and landscape and smells. I could feel it in my body. It just didn’t work quite right, everything was a bit off. It was beautiful where we were and everyone was amazing. I’m so glad I went. I’d been wanting to attend but had been unable to for the previous two conferences. So I was very excited to finally be there this year. And I promise to share more about it later.
But traveling there and back made it clear to me in a new way that I love to feel ‘at home’. That I need to feel at home. America is vast. The world is vast. I don’t need to see it all; what I need is to see a portion of it very closely and very intimately. What I need is to be rooted. What I need is a sense of place.














Home – that is such a powerful word and feeling. It means so much. It’s not just a place, but a feeling. – for me of peace. I can relate to being a home body. I live in the same town I grew up in. My mother is less than five miles away from me. My sons attend the same schools I did and even had a couple of the same teachers. This is home. There are only a couple of other places that I feel this peace. One is my grandparents beach house and the other is in the NC mountains…where I hope to retire because there is a serenity for me in those trees and peaks.
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By the way – Welcome Back! Can’t wait to hear about all you learned, saw and did!
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Thanks, Melissa. I’m really glad to be back.
I’ve heard people rave about the beauty of the NC mountains. Hope you end up there eventually :)
First of all those photos are amazing! Second of all we drove to Southern Ca to visit family and those mono crops really freaked me out. Third, I so relate to your homesickness. I have lived many different places but nothing ever felt like home (expect here). In fact Tuscany was the closest, must have been because of the climate and plants.
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I could see Tuscany being almost the same. It’s amazing how much climate dictates plant life and the ‘feel’ of a place.
What a beautiful post. Your words, your photos…I too am a homebody and have not quite yet found that this place, not the home…because are working hard to make it feel like our home, but the place doesn’t feel quite like home yet…although we’ve been her for three years now…my husband grew up here, but this suburban life still feels new to me. So far, the amish country living from my childhood or the city living of my early married years feel like a better fit…but we are figuring it out…Looking forward to hearing more about the conference….
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Suburbia is a weird kind of limbo, I think. For me, having a large lot full of natives and herbs helps, also finding all those weedy and woody places around me. I’m country at heart, I think. I lived in cities when I was younger and single and really struggled with the noise and lack of green space. But the diversity and ease of not owning a car were nice.
Such a lovely post Amber, and you have pretty much described me to a tee. I am a homebody. I like this place we call home, the place where my roots are, close to family and friends. While I do like to visit other places, coming home is always good. In fact, I usually crave coming home before it is actually time.
Looking forward to hearing about your conference.
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me too. always good to be home.
welcome back! i quite like going away but i do love to come home again too. great photos.
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Thank you. I agree.
I think along with “home” comes a sense of rhythm which I need every bit as much as the nesting that comes with being in my own space. I love to “go”—–but every time I do, I appreciate the homecoming just a bit more! Such beautiful photos. (as always! thank you!!!)
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Yes. I think the rhythm is critical, the seasons and their shifts. They can vary so much from place to place.
wow those last words really struck me- i’ve always felt like i should be seeing the world, but in my heart the desire was very small. thank you for helping me see that is perfectly normal, my desire to make the space around me my “world” :) can’t wait to hear about the rest of your trip!
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I’m glad to hear it made sense to you. It’s deep, I think, this desire to know a place, to feel at home.
Oh Amber, this post makes me ache! I currently live in Chicago, but have not felt at “home” for a very long time. It was always there, an undercurrent, when it was just my husband and I, but once our children came it hit me full force – I feel it, uncomfortable & longing, on a daily basis. I understand those deep roots – for me they are firmly in the Northeast, New Hampshire to be exact. I always knew I wanted to move back, I thought I wanted to be a few hours away from where I grew up, but I now know I want to be much closer. I am very much a homebody, my kids and I enjoy our “at home” days, I wish I was able to put down roots where I am now but I know for me, I need to return to NE. I’m so glad you have been able to put down roots where you are – I think finding those nature places that connect, even in a small way, with the place you grew up is key. You’ve put into words some big things and given me a lot to think about – thank you.
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I think it matters very much, living in a place that feels like home. One of the essentials, up there with home cooked food and being in the arms of loved ones. I hope you get to move back there one day. Glad to hear the post resonated with you. FYI: I’m enjoying your magazine very much. It’s lovely.
So beautifully put- I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been uprooted so many times and spend years looking back and missing where I was until I buckle down and decide to love what’s under my feet instead. Thanks for this. (also, such nice pictures!!)
Wait, is it condescending as hell to say ‘I know exactly how you feel?’. What I mean is, I have felt similarly and can empathise. :)
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Nope. I don’t take too many things as being condescending ;)
Yes, you’ve summarized it exactly!
your words resonate with me Amber. I feel this same way about CO. Being raised in Ga (until 19) I feel that I grew up in Co (19-38) and it is with a little trepidation and, of course, excitement that I prepare to move to the next setting for the next chapter. the NC woods are familiar but they’re not yet home. it will be hard saying goodbye to CO, even though I know it’s a great move.
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Best of luck in that transition!